Friday, January 30, 2009

Something to talk about

One of the benefits of being a freelancer is that I get to go to the salon on a Monday afternoon to get my hair cut and highlighted. This process takes a couple of hours, so Mondays are great--for one, the kids are in school so I'm not using "me time" on a weekend, and there are a lot of openings at the salon, so I can be in and out quickly. Win-win.

Except when there's a blabberer near you. The place was nearly empty except for one other customer. I couldn't see her because my back was to her, but boy could I hear her. And boy was she boring. All she talked about was her kids. It went something like this:


"and Thomas loves blueberries"
"and Isabella will only eat them if they're mashed up"
"Isabella wants to sleep in Thomas's bed"
"Thomas said the cutest thing"

And so on. This is my what I feared when I left my job to spend more time with my family. I never wanted to be the stay-at-home mom who could only talk about her children. It's draining! That's why stay-at-home moms are ignored when they go to dinner parties--they're not interesting.

There's no need for this. Just because you're up to your elbows in dirty diapers an mashed peas doesn't mean you get to bow out of society. It's January 2009--have an opinion! What do you think of Obama signing the fair pay act? What about those Wall Street bonuses? Or the octuplets? Or, if all that is too deep, who do you think will win the Superbowl or the Oscar for best picture?

I'm not nearly as informed as I'd like to be, despite my online news habit. However, it's not that hard to talk about something other than your children. Not that your children aren't fascinating, wonderful, amazing beings--they are. But do yourself, and everyone else, a favor and go to Discussion Divas and sign up for a weekly email that is designed to keep women informed. Make an effort--show your children and the rest of the world that even though you may be out of the workforce, you're not completely out of touch.